How is it to be a mom? Does it end when you let the baby out of your womb?
NO.
For 23 years, I have witnessed several moms in my life. I grew up with so many moms... NMy mom-mom, my nanay, my mommies (titas), all of which whom I saw different faces and characteristics of motherhood. I guess it doe not stop on a child's first cry...
MOMMY TRAIT #1 UNDYING LOVE
I have a mommy (tita/aunt), my Mommy P., who lost her daughter 30 years ago- my cosin was 5 years old when she died ( i didnt even get to meet her). but as i heard the story, it was almost heartbreaking. my cousin, Mylene was supposed to turn five a day after she was rushed to the hospital. The doctors were saying taht my cousin is not allowed to leave the hospital- but her condition was already serious, and my mommy was witnessing how her baby was suffering. she had this disease or i think a deficiency of the bone. it was caused by an accident when she was about 2 yeas old- her yaya accidentally dropped her. but the yaya kept silent until my cousin showed signs of abnormality (i dont know if that is the right term or not). shecould not walk nor run nor play like normal kids. at the hospital, my mommy together with my ninang (godmother) was planning to take my cousin out of the hospital because it was her birthday. since the doctors didnt want her to leave beacuse they had to do tests and all, my mommy (aunt) was sure that her daughter didnt need any medical attention at that moment. what she needed was a happy day because it was her birthday. She tried very hard to let her dughter be released in the hospital but the problem is they won't let her go. so all she needed to do was to take her daughter out of the hospital like a kidnapper. SHe succeeded with that. She had her daughter for a whole day celebrating her day. My cousin who was trurning five that day was so happy, enjoying her life- her day as a child. She was energetic and smiles were all over her face (as they would remember). The day after her birthday, she died. Maybe, my aunt has foreseen the event, so she wanted to give all her best for her daughter. I know some would say its a stupid thing to do but I understand how she feels- she was a mom.. she wanted everything good for her daughter and it kills her to see her daughter suffer so much-there were conclusions that she's going to die soon. And now, year after year- every special occassion my aunt would cook her favorite meal, bake her favorite cake, bring her fowers and light up candles by her grave. A mother would always be a mother.
MOMMY TRAIT #2 UNDERSTANDING AND SUPPORT DESPITE HARDSHIPS AND TROUBLES
I have another mommy (aunt) who loves her son dearly. They live somewhere out there, in another continet. My cousin is an only child- a spoiled brat I would say. He would always opt for more expensive things rather than the simple things in life. Unlike his parents my cousin is a "waster". Without realizing the importance of hard-earned money and hardwork. He would always buy things and charge it to credit card companies (the tempataion credit cards bring- I too was a victim once, but I learned my lesson well). Anyway, back to the story, he then felll into debt as in big time debt- although he was working as a manager in a fast food store while studying he still was such a "waster". Yep, he fell into debt- big time debt.. i would not say how far but for me its far too much....my aunt who then was diagnosed with a cist in her breast (which i think runs in the family) tried to get another job afetr retiring from her previous employer. While she was working hard she was the one paying her son's bills (foolish!!!! very foolish!!! - i was even saying that my aunt should've just let my good-for-nothing cousin go.. hehehe.. am i bad- all he do was buy but not walk up to his "paying responsibility") ANyway, yes, my aunt is the one helping out my cousin pay his bills. She didnt want my uncle to know about my cousin's situation right now- so she's overing it up- coz she knows the consequences once my uncle would know how his son is faring in the sea of life. I don't know but really, mommies can sacrifice alot for their children.
LAST MOMMY TRAIT IS ULTIMATE SACRIFICE AND PATIENCE
My mom-mom, for 23 years has been generous, loving, caring and compassionate. Though there were times I have been rebellious and bad she still was there for me- understood me, helped me pick up the pieces of my torn life and put it all back together to be me..now.
Although i grew up with only my mom by my side, I believe and I know taht I grew up to be a person with sense and worth in this world. It was hard, I know, to raise a kid all by yourself that is why I respect my mom so much because her dedication and care for me was not out of responsibility but out of love. And I know there are times taht the world is not on our side, but guess what, we are still happy, talk about stuff and smile even if the grayest clouds are above our heads.
My mom was my confidante, although I am not a person who talks about problems and loves keeping secrets for myself, she always has this gut-feel- she'll know when I have troubles in life, with friends and love. Hahah. moms.. is it because of that cord that binds a child and a mother together?
There are other stories I would like to share but I think I have to end it here first.... coz I have something to do right now and time is running out!!!! hahahah! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!
