Sometimes you’re just going about your business — working, partying, falling in love — when suddenly, you’re blindsided: You get fired, your guy dumps you, or you go broke. Cosmo’s gonna tell you how to rebound.

Here’s the way smart chicks thwart unwanted sexual attention without damaging their own reputations.

Ferreting out a toxic friend isn’t that easy. Below, tip-offs that the bond with your BFF may be DOA.

If your BFF makes Paris Hilton look like a friggin’ nun, read on. When a chick you’re close to is on a collision course, you don’t want to go down with her.

It's in big trouble, so you have two choices: Act now or live with global-warming guilt. (Go with the first one.)

I pulled this article off so that I could also share this with you. Okay, so now, my blog is full of tips and tricks about life, work and beauty or just plain everyday rants, but now, there's a bigger issue that we need to focus on- its not just only about ourselves but for the sake of the human race and of course, the future generations. In line with the Global Lights Out Program (EARTH HOUR) that'll be happening today, I would like to share this article.

This past February, the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change(IPCC) unveiled its official (and highly anticipated) report on global climate change. This report, which was produced by 600 representatives from 40 countries all over the world, made a very scary statement: There's more than a 90 percent chance that global warming is caused by our burning of fossil fuels, which emit carbon dioxide. Read: Global warming is our fault.

Even scarier? According to the IPCC, global temperatures may rise between 1.1 and 6.4 degrees Celsius by the year 2100. Knowing that, the question becomes "What now?" We also wondered, Can one person really even make a difference? Well, according to the findings and to Nigel Campbell, chief media officer for Greenpeace International, the answer (thank goodness) is a resounding yes!

"Most important, you can reduce the amount of carbon dioxide you emit, which is the main greenhouse gas heating up the atmosphere," says Campbell. "Just simply making some small adjustments in your day-to-day activities means doing your part to help repair and prevent further global warming."

Here,with help from Campbell and other experts in the field, we arm you with a slew of super-easy strategies.


Still don't believe that the world is really experiencing Global Warming? Watch this. Just last March 28, a big chunk of ice in Antarctica broke dow which raised so much worries from people near the said place. Of course, who wouldn't be alarmed with a big chunk of ice slowly melting. The problem? It could lead to serious flooding in US areas or maybe in other countries too. Although I am not an advocate or member of Green Peace or any environmental organization, lets just try our best to help out in these simple ways. It wouldn't hurt us to do such simple yet helpful things. Its not only for other people's sake but for our sake and our family's sake too.

You hear these so-called pearls of wisdom all the time...but maybe it's time you start completely ignoring these "rules"!

These days, everyone from your best girlfriend to your hairdresser considers herself an expert on something — freely giving you her two cents on how you should handle your love life, career, living style...you name it. They mean well, of course, but the problem is, a lot of that advice is actually not that wise. Sometimes the rules change (in other words, what worked for your mom's generation doesn't cut it for modern women), and other times, the advice was totally off to begin with.

Take these 12 bits of info, for example. We asked experts to tell us why following them will steer you wrong, plus the right spin on each one to help make your life simpler and easier.

1. Never quit a job until you have another.
As long as you can deal with the financial fallout, resigning without a backup plan is no career killer. "If a position doesn't feel right for you and you've tried to work things out with no improvement, you're better off following your instincts and quitting," explains Margot Carmichael Lester, contributing writer for the career Website Monster.com and author of Real Life Guide to Starting Your Career. "Getting yourself out of a dead-end situation will salvage your mental health and kick-start your drive so you can zero in on the kind of job you do want."

2. It's always better to break up with a guy in person.
True, if you're seriously coupled with a man, you owe him the courtesy of a face-to-face explanation. But when you're parting ways with a guy you've been seeing casually, a phone or an e-mail breakup will do. "As long as you aren't emotionally involved, you can end things with a quick 'I'm going to be really busy these next few months, and I just won't have any time to devote to dating,'" explains Darlene Mininni, PhD, author of The Emotional Toolkit. Dumping from a distance helps you articulate your good-bye and clarify that over means over.

It may seem cold, but you're actually making the split easier for him to deal with. "You're sparing him the awkwardness of being rejected in person, which is really hard to take, even if you're not that close to the person who is rejecting you," says Mininni.

3. Don't paint a small room a dark color.
If you want to make a tiny space appear larger, this design decree specifies that light hues work way better than darker ones. But it's simply not true. "A dark shade actually makes the walls of a room recede into the background, so the space appears more open and vast — similar to the vastness of the nighttime sky," explains interior designer Candice Olson, host of HGTV's Divine Design.

What does reduce the size of a room is lots of contrast between the color of the walls and that of the trim and furniture. "The trim acts like a border, so if the tone is too far off from the tone of the main room and the objects in it, a space will seem cramped," says Olson. Choosing a trim tone and furnishings that closely duplicate the main color scheme creates an illusion of depth.

4. Drink eight glasses of water a day.
The funny thing about this H₂O rule? A recent study determined that it's more urban myth than science-backed health fact. "No one knows where it originated, but it isn't true — the average person does not need to consume this or any set amount of water," explains Steven G. Aldana, PhD, professor of health and human performance at Brigham Young University in Utah. In fact, most of us suck down more than enough liquid via supersize coffee concoctions and sodas as well as food sources like fruits and grains. "Eight glasses of water on top of this is overkill," says Aldana.

The best agua advice is to grab a drink whenever you feel thirsty. "Thirst is a sign that your body needs fluid, not that you're already dehydrated," he adds.

5. Eating after 8 p.m. will make you gain weight.
Calories are calories no matter what time you consume them — or whether they come from protein, fats, or carbs. "Only when you exceed your daily calorie allotment [an active 20-something chick needs about 1,800 daily] will your scale creep upward," says nutritionist Christine Gerbstadt, MD, a spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association.

6. Always Google a guy before a first date.
We've all done it: After scoring a dinner invite from a new dude, you type his name into a search engine and scrutinize every link that's spit back at you. While it's normal to crave background data on a potential beau, your curiosity could KO any chance of a love connection.

"A lot of women justify cyber-snooping as a safety measure: You want to know ahead of time if his name pops up on a serial-killer Website," explains Los Angeles psychologist Yvonne Thomas, PhD. "But what usually happens is, you end up forming an opinion of a man based on the kind of outdated or incorrect information that's all over the Internet. Plus, you rob him of the chance to share his history with you at his own pace, which puts any flaw or embarrassing story in context."

7. Wait for him to say "I love you" first.
These days, women are asking guys out and calling the shots between the sheets. But the typical chick will wait... and wait...and wait for her man to drop the L bomb before she does, assuming that if he really felt it, he'd utter it first. "Truth is, often young guys are tentative when it comes to saying 'I love you'; they're either afraid of being rejected or aren't comfortable voicing their emotions," says Thomas.

If you want to express your love for a steady guy who has so far been mum on his feelings, consider saying it first. Putting it out there may be the cue your guy needs to tell you the same.

8. You're safe as long as you have your cell.
Don't count on it. "There are tons of dead zones — even in big cities — where there is no reception at all," says personal security expert Robert Siciliano. If you do manage to call the cops, it'll still take 10 to 30 minutes for police to find you because you're not at a specific address. Never use your cell as a replacement for safety smarts, like not going out late on your own or hitting the road at night solo.

9. Don't pair white wine with beef or red wine with fish or chicken.
Ignore. If you're serving a hearty meal — a steak or pasta with cream sauce — or a fish that's not oily, like cod, go with a full-flavored wine (for red, think cabernet sauvignon; for white, a buttery chardonnay). If your menu includes a delicate dish, such as roast chicken or an oily fish like salmon, you'll want a light red, like Chianti, or a citrusy white, says Felicia Sherbert, author of The Unofficial Guide to Selecting Wine. (The rule of thumb for fish: Drier types need buttery wine; oilier ones, lemony wine.)

10. Wearing stripes makes you look fat.
Okay, this advice is partly accurate. Horizontal stripes of any size and wide vertical stripes draw a person's eye side to side, making the wearer appear wider than she really is.

But thin vertical and diagonal stripes draw the eye up and down, so the person wearing them comes off as taller and slimmer, explains fashion expert Judith Waters, PhD, professor of psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University in New Jersey. "They also add texture and interest to a garment, making you stand out in a crowd."

11. Wash, rinse, and repeat each time you shampoo.
This hair-care commandment still appears on the back of some shampoo bottles. But rather than leaving your locks squeaky clean, it's a shrewd marketing strategy to get you to buy more product, explains Liell Hilligoss, a stylist at the Avon Salon and Spa in New York City. "Lathering up twice in a row actually strips away the moisture in each strand, leaving hair very dry and susceptible to breakage," says Hilligoss.

12. Put 25 percent of your paycheck into a savings account.
Because a savings account doesn't offer a high interest rate — and 25 percent is a lot for a 20-something to save — you're better off putting 6 percent of your paycheck into your company-sponsored 401(k) or an IRA (a retirement account that accrues interest that isn't taxed). "If your company matches this amount, you can end up with nearly $1.2 million [based on a $50,000 salary] by the time you retire," says Kathleen Gurney, PhD, author of Your Money Personality.

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Another great read from Cosmo. I know, at this point many young, working girls and boys have plans in their lives. You want to have your dream house, dream car or maybe a dream vacation. Well how to do that? Read on.

Okay, this is the year you're going to make something big happen. And we mean big, as in buying your own pad, planning a fab trip, changing your image.... Check out the mind tricks that will take you there.

By now, you probably have a vague idea of what your dream life looks like. Or hell, maybe you’ve been fantasizing about it — very precisely — since you were 5. Not that your current situation is bad, but there are always a few huge things that you envision doing one day. Trouble is, it’s hard to get moving when you have no clue where to begin. “Fostering change is exciting but daunting at the same time — unless you know how to approach it,” says life coach Scott W. Ventrella, adjunct professor at Fordham University’s Graduate School of Business, where he teaches a course called “The Total Quality Way of Life.”

That’s where Cosmo comes in. Our smart strategies for tackling any big plan will guide you through the process of making something new happen for you. (Just keep in mind that depending on what you want to accomplish, some of these tips will apply to your goal more than others.) Here, your handy life-change handbook.

1. Visualize the Outcome

If you can’t actually imagine yourself, say, landing that dream job, you never will. “Not only does seeing yourself there make the goal feel comfortable and therefore accessible,” explains Jack Canfield, author of Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, “but it also enables you to bat around a ton of different possibilities and versions of your aspirations in your head, without consequence, until you figure out what’s right for you.”

Start by simply closing your eyes and letting your mind wander. Think of it this way: You’re shopping for a major life change. So attack it like a trip to the mall. Try on for size a whole lot of different options and separate what works from what doesn’t. You may have to keep jumping from “what if” to “what if” until you find the perfect fit.

Just make sure you pay attention to your visceral responses along the way. “When you stumble upon a choice that’s right for you, you may feel calm, happy, or even energized,” explains Canfield. “But if an idea causes you anxiety, it’s a clear signal that you’re on the wrong track.” And if there’s a single image that you keep coming back to — bingo! “Often, the option that’s right for you is the one that repeatedly pops into your head,” says Canfield.

Apply the principle: MAKING A CAREER CHANGE

Ponder your occupational options by imagining what the day-to-day would be like. Sure, donning a power suit and chilling in a corner office sounds cool in theory. But would you really be happy waking up at dawn and playing corporate politics? If picturing yourself pulling on panty hose every morning leaves you less than elated, the answer is no. But if envisioning yourself presiding over a board meeting gives you goose bumps, that may be your destiny.

Apply the principle: OVERHAULING YOUR LOOK

To begin your get-gorgeous upgrade, flip through a few of your favorite magazines and see which images you gravitate toward. Pinpoint your preferences, and then picture yourself dressed the part. “This will help you eliminate the styles you like but might not necessarily feel comfortable wearing,” explains stylist Gara Gambucci. The same holds true for hair and makeup transformations. “You may love Keira Knightley’s short cut,” says hairstylist Richard Corio of the Sally Hershberger salon in New York City, “but when you give yourself a ‘virtual makeover,’ you may realize you’d feel naked without your ponytail.”

2. Think Backward

You’ve visualized exactly what you want, yet attaining it still seems daunting. No worries. Wrapping your brain around an enormous undertaking is easier than you’d guess. “You don’t have to tackle the whole venture at once,” says Ventrella. “Instead, break down your objective into manageable increments and tackle them one by one.” Here’s the hitch: You might not know what the first increment is. The trick is to start with a step you do know, and then work in reverse. Check out this strategy in action in the following examples, and you’ll see exactly what we mean. Bottom line: “Thinking from finish to start elucidates the stages and helps you foresee any roadblocks along the way,” says Ventrella.

Apply the principle: BUYING A HOME

So you want to score your own pad. Well, you know that before you can roll out the welcome mat, you have to find the place. All right, that’s like step four. So backtrack from there: In order to find the place, you probably need a real-estate agent. And before you waste an agent’s time, you have to know how much you can spend. Rewind again: In order to determine your cash cap, you have to sit down with a mortgage broker.

“A loan officer will assess your income level and assets to figure out how much you can afford and preapprove you for a loan,” explains Starzie Mayer, a sales associate at Weichert Realtors in Mendham, New Jersey. “Without a preapproval, you can’t make a bid on a property.” Which leads you to step one: getting preapproved for a loan. (Knowing what you can spend will help energize you as you start looking also.)

Apply the principle: MAKING A CAREER CHANGE

You know that hearing the words “You’re hired!” is predicated upon a kick-ass interview. Of course, you can’t nail an interview you’ve never had, which is where networking comes in. But before you start calling and e-mailing your contacts or posting your credentials on a job Website, you have to polish up your résumé. Aha!

3. Research

It’s easy to get so excited about your impending metamorphosis that you neglect to suss out exactly what you’re diving into. “When we fantasize about doing something big in our lives, we often fail to take into account what achieving it actually entails,” says Marilee Adams, PhD, author of Change Your Questions, Change Your Life. “There are bound to be a billion little things that come up that you had no clue about.”

Clearly, it’s crucial to do your homework. “The problem is, in this information age, we have access to so much data that attempting to process all of your findings can make your head spin,” says Adams. That’s why she suggests making a list of five key questions you want answered before you attempt so much as a Web search. Don’t labor over the questions; just jot down what you think is most important. For example: If you want to make a career switch, you might implore “Will I need to go back to school for an advanced degree?” or “What is the average salary?”

“These queries will give you a starting point from which to build your knowledge base so you don’t become overwhelmed,” says Adams.

Apply the principle: PLANNING A COOL VACATION

Sure, hanging ten in Saint Thomas sounds fab. That is, until you do a little detective work to answer your first question (“Will I be able to surf?”) and discover there are no big waves on the island — destination deal breaker! Identifying a list of things you think are vital beforehand helps you refine your research and home in on what you really need, says Adams. Other travel questions to consider: “How expensive is the flight?”; “What is the best season?”; and even “Does the hotel have a gym?” You’ll find answers on the official tourism Website associated with your locale, a travel site such as orbitz.com, or a guidebook like Time Out’s destination-specific travel series (available at bn.com), says Lizet Gediciyan, director of Travelcraft, a travel agency in New York City.

Apply the principle: BUYING A HOME

You don’t want to become a homeowner blindly, so formulate your questions. A place to start: “Am I getting a good deal?” One way to find out: “Ask your real-estate agent for a comparable market analysis, which will tell you how much similar properties in the area are going for,” says Mayer. “If your price is on par, you’ll know you’re not being ripped off.” Another goodie: “What is the community like?” In this case, Mayer suggests driving by the property at various times of the day to scope out the ’hood. You can also visit the local municipality or its Website (it’s sometimes www.townname.org) for the scoop.

4. Find Someone Who’s Done It

Nothing is as valuable as getting advice from someone with personal experience. “One of the most effective ways to work toward a goal is to find a person who’s successfully accomplished it,” says Canfield.

That said, let the networking begin. “You’ll often find an individual with expertise in the area you’re investigating via word of mouth,” explains Canfield. That’s why it makes sense to pick the brains of everyone you know. Ask coworkers, neighbors, and former professors if they can turn you on to someone who could lead you in the right direction. “Don’t feel like you’re bothering them,” says business consultant Susan Murphy, PhD, coauthor of In the Company of Women. “Most people love to talk about their accomplishments.”

What they don’t love is a time suck. So before you touch base with the person, be prepared with questions. After all, this might be a one-shot deal, so get as much info as you can. “And don’t be afraid to ask for the good and the bad,” says Murphy. “You can learn from others’ mistakes.”

Apply the principle: PLANNING A COOL VACATION

Ask the average person about their stint in paradise and you’ll most likely get a glowing review (“Omigod! Everything was fabulous!”). Peachy, but that doesn’t exactly give you awesome insight into booking your own trip. Gediciyan recommends probing a little deeper by asking questions like “Were there any sights that you thought were a total waste of time?”; “Did you see another hotel that you wish you’d stayed at instead?”; and “What would you have done differently?”

Apply the principle: MAKING A CAREER CHANGE

You may dream about running a company someday, but that doesn’t mean Bill Gates is going to meet you for coffee to discuss. “You don’t necessarily need to go to the top of the heap for career advice,” says Murphy. “Your main goal is to get started, and often someone in middle management is more likely to assist you.” (For example, if you want to own your own boutique, ask a local shop owner for advice, not Ralph Lauren.) Then make contact via e-mail (no one wants to be cold-called), armed with questions like “What part of your day do you dread?” and “What are the busy-work aspects of the job?”

5. Set Deadlines

You constantly have deadlines imposed on you at work and school, but no one is going to breathe down your neck and ask you why that life change is late, so you need to act as your own deadline tyrant in order to move from the maybe-one- day mentality to making it happen. Keep in mind that these deadlines aren’t meant to stress you out, but rather to motivate you and keep you aware that you truly are making progress…even if your goal is a long way off.

So how do you meet your goal without becoming anxious? Set a realistic timeline. “Establishing a viable calendar makes the process seem more manageable,” says Ventrella. Think about how much time you have until D-day and how much time you can devote to it. Then bust out your planner and give yourself minigoals. For example: “I will do X, Y, and Z by such and such date.” Be sure to chart your progress in writing. “Every time you mark something on your calendar, you’ll see that you’re one step closer to your goal, which can be highly motivating,” says Canfield.

Apply the principle: OVERHAULING YOUR LOOK

Getting ultrabuff like Jennifer Garner did for Alias might take you six months or more. That’s why you have to set little goals, like hitting the gym for an hour three times a week, and larger goals, like getting rock-hard biceps within a month. Monitor your success in a workout diary and voilà!

Apply the principle: BUYING A HOME

The deadlines here are mostly about the green stuff. You already know you’re going to need a down payment. So figure out how much you can afford to sock away per paycheck and how long it will take to hit that target number. Then set a date to be preapproved for a loan and find an agent. Once you have all these balls in the air, your dream will soon become a reality.

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Guys can defend themselves here. Is this true or not? This is just one of the coolest posts by Cosmopolitan. If you're curious about the new dude in your life but know better than to grill him with 20 questions, you're gonna love our sneaky read-him tips.

You don't have to date a guy for six months to get the lowdown on who he really is. With the right clues, you can size him up in 10 minutes. "A man's actions — especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he's not going out of his way to try to impress you (or doesn't realize you're watching) — can speak volumes about his character and personality traits," says Rita Benasutti, PhD, a psychotherapist who specializes in couple's issues. To help you decode a guy you've just started seeing, Cosmo called on a team of experts to tell you how to assess his actions and tap into his boyfriend potential, pronto.

His Favorite Sport
"Solo sportsmen, like runners and swimmers, 1 savor their independence and relish spending a lot of time alone," says relationship-skills coach Steve Nakamoto, author of Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Catching a Man. Men who are fans of mainstream team sports, like football, basketball, and baseball, 2 tend to be competitive — on the field and in all aspects of their life — and they like to hang with their entourage. As for the guy who's just not into sports at all, 3"he's an independent thinker, usually on the sensitive side."

How Long He's Been Hanging with His Friends
A guy who has been friends with the same posse since he was 10 years old can certainly claim 4 loyalty as one of his strong suits. But "you better like what you see, because he's probably not great with change," says dating coach Liz H. Kelly, author of Smart Man Hunting. "And be patient, because it will take a while for you to win his trust." If your date has buddies from all areas of his life — i.e., college, the gym, work — don't be afraid to drag him to your cousin's wedding. 5 "He has no problem schmoozing strangers and adapts to new situations easily."

Credit vs. Cash
A guy who likes to flash his plastic 6 craves status. "He may be ambitious and confident. He'll reach his financial goals," says Rob Ronin, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist and registered financial consultant. "If he always pays in cash, 7 he's self-sufficient and independent," which might make him a difficult dude to corner. And if his wallet is dry? 8 Here's a guy who's dependent on others to take care of him.

His Bad Habits
Gambling men 9 are risk-takers, which can make them a lot of fun. "But their over-the-top optimism that they'll come out ahead makes it difficult for them to face reality," says Mitchell Parks, MD, assistant professor of psychiatry at Vanderbilt University, in Nashville. "Hard-core smokers 10 tend to be anxious," says Dr. Parks, so it can be hard to pin them down for couple-time. And if he's a boozer, 11 he could be hiding his insecurity behind his buzz.

His Communication Style
When your date opts to email you — rather than call — 12 he could be a hard nut to crack. "The fact that he chooses a communication method that allows him to edit what he says signals that he might not want to show his true self," says Jeff Bryson, PhD, professor of psychology at San Diego State University. An IM addict 13 craves your nonstop attention and needs that instant assurance that you're there for him. And the phone fan? 14 He might be a little old-fashioned and likes to do things by the book. But, according to Bryson, "He's not afraid of intimacy."

The Clothes You Wear That Turn Him On
If your fave T-shirt and jeans or a cute little sundress do more for him than your slinky black number, 15 you're dating an earthy, laid-back guy who likes equally laid-back, low-maintenance chicks. A man who's wowed by a woman who likes to get dolled up in high-end designer duds 16 places a high priority on prestige. "He'll probably make a lot of money, but it also might play too important a role in his life," says Los Angeles clinical psychologist Nancy Irwin, PsyD. And a guy who wants a Carmen Electra-sexy girl on his arm 17 is looking for an ego boost. "He places a lot of value on being admired and envied."

How He Likes to Party
He might be gorgeous, but if he can't cut loose with his friends, 18 he's probably uptight and self-conscious, so don't expect any over-the-top romantic gestures or burn-the-house-down sex...at least for a while. "He needs time to come out of his shell," says sex expert Joan Elizabeth Lloyd, author of Naughty Secrets. On the flip side, Mr. Party Central might be a heap of fun to hang out with, 19 but his constant craving for attention means he requires a lot of TLC and your needs might be neglected. You'll also have to arm-wrestle him for some one-on-one time. "Because he's so focused on his image and attention, he'd rather be surrounded by people than alone with you," says Lloyd.

How He Deals with Traffic
If he constantly weaves in and out of cars, tailgates slowpokes, and flips other drivers the bird, 20 "it's pretty clear that he has a problem with aggression," says Leon James, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Hawaii and author of Road Rage and Aggressive Driving. While a forceful personality might take him far in the workplace, it could be difficult to deal with this argumentative guy in a relationship. If he's able to exude Zenlike calm when stuck in gridlock, 21 "he's likely to have more self-control."

If He Always Initiates Sex
Does your guy jump your bones whenever, well, he gets a boner? 22 "He's probably confident in your mutual attraction," according to sexologist Sandor Gardos, MD. Surprisingly, however, 23 he could also be on the conservative side and believe in traditional gender roles. As for the guy who waits for you to green-light him before making his move, 24 "he's likely to be an eager-to-please person or still healing a damaged ego from some serious rejection in his past."

What Time He Prefers to Have Sex
You're dating a 25 spontaneous go-getter if he's bent on a.m. booty. While his high energy makes him a blast, his need for instant gratification might grate on your nerves. If he only wants nighttime nooky, 26 he's probably a romantic at heart but a little tame, explains sex therapist Carole Altman, PhD, author of Electrify Your Sex Life. Don't expect the Kama Sutra, but prepare for long, sensual sack sessions.

What He Orders in a Restaurant
A meat-and-potatoes-type guy 27 is usually steady and dependable, says image coach Dianne Daniels, author of Polish and Presence: 31 Days to a New Image. "But he's also a little unadventurous." If your date goes for exotic dishes, 28 "you're with someone who makes spontaneity a priority and could easily get bored with the status quo."

Neat Freak or Messy Man
A guy who puts his dirty socks in the hamper is one thing; a guy who color-codes them in his drawer is something else. 29 "This man is way too fastidious to have fun," explains Daniels, "and he'll expect you to be just as neat." A mildly messy man 30 is looser and more open-minded. But if the inside of his shower has never seen a scrub brush, 31 he may be immature or just plain lazy, and do you really want to see what shape his sheets are in?

Favorite TV Shows
Take note if he parks himself in front of one sitcom after another. 32 "Here's a guy who uses humor to defuse stress," says TV producer Hedda Muskat, author of Dating Confidential: A Single's Guide to a Fun, Flirtatious and Possibly Meaningful Social Life. This can be a good thing, because he won't hold a grudge against you or lose his cool. But it also might be hard to get into a serious conversation with him, which can be frustrating as hell. "The more you try to discuss something important, the more evasive he will become," says Muskat. A couch sleuth who's fascinated by CSI-type shows, on the other hand, 33 is analytical and thoughtful. "He prides himself on his problem-solving abilities and will be there for you when you need support," says Muskat.

If He's Left-Handed
Right-handers make up the majority of men, so that reveals very little. "However, date a lefty and 34 you may be dating an artist at heart," says certified hand analyst Beth Davis, founder of HandAnalyst.com. "Left-handed people process more information on the right side of their brain, which lends itself to creativity."

His Choice in Underwear
"Tightie-whities 35 are the sign of a man who's proud of his equipment and how he uses it," says Irwin. "The tighter they are, the more eager he is to show you his sexual skills and the less able he is to attune to your needs." Men who prefer donning boxers and boxer briefs 36 might be less showy in bed, but they're more willing to keep the focus on you. And as for a guy who goes commando? 37 "He's a free spirit who's comfortable with his body."

His Hair
It's no secret that guys are as neurotic about their hair as girls are about their bodies. 38 So it follows that the dude with the shampoo-commercial coif has an ego the size of Texas and isn't afraid to show it. "The more hair a man has, the more confident he is," says Gary Hitzig, MD, a board-certified hair-restoration surgeon in New York. He might also be a little short on sensitivity. "Men with great hair usually only know what it's like to be admired, not criticized. They're used to getting what they want — when they want it — and are much more likely to give others a hard time for not living up to their own standards," says Dr. Hitzig. As you might guess, if his hair is thinning out, 39 his ego is most likely whittling down too. But on the bright side, he's probably more empathetic.

His Sexual Style
You can't judge a guy by one night in the sack (they get first-night jitters too), but a couple of booty calls can offer plenty of personality clues. "If he's a 10-minute man, 40 he's a Type A personality and very results-oriented, which can make him a little selfish...and not just in bed," says Irwin. On the other hand, a man who lavishes you with affection and spends hours hunting for your hot spots 41 wants to connect with you on all levels "and is generally a good communicator out of the bedroom as well."

His Birth Order
"The oldest child 42 is usually a responsible, take-charge kind of guy," says Nancy Fagan, author of Desirable Men. If your babe is the baby of his brood, 43 "he's likely to be creative and a little rebellious." As for a middle man: 44 "He's a sensitive soul who needs loads of attention."

How He Approaches PDAs
When you're out in public and he's all over you like a rash, 45 "he's either trying to show you off or marking his territory, both of which are signs of insecurity," says Nakamoto. A guy who's allergic to body contact in public is 46 unsure about his feelings for you or your feelings for him. "PDAs are statements of togetherness," says Nakamoto. "If he has doubts, he'll keep his distance physically."

Whether He Always Drives or Wants You To
"A guy who doesn't automatically assume driving rights 47 is likely to let you steer the relationship at least some of the time," says Kelly. A man who hogs the wheel — even in your car — 48 is sweetly old-fashioned at best and, at worst, could be a control freak.

The Guy's Grooming MO
A guy who checks out his reflection in every store window you pass is obviously vain. But, interestingly, 49 it's also a sign of a dude who's intent on succeeding. "Presentation is everything to this kind of man," says Sheenah Hankin, PhD, author of Complete Confidence. "He sees it as a measure of his self-respect and success." 50 The low-key, less conceited guy might be less ambitious, "but he's easier to connect with emotionally because he's not as superficial," says Hankin. "What counts on the inside matters more to him."

If He Looks You in the Eye
"A man who doesn't make eye contact during conversation 51 may not be trustworthy," says speech coach Diane DiResta, author of Knockout Presentations. "Meanwhile, if his eyes bore into yours as he's talking, 52 he might be trying to intimidate you." But a smoldering gaze — you know what that looks like — 53 means he's hot for you.

His Speaking Style
If your man moves his mouth a mile a minute, 54 you're with a spontaneous, high-energy guy who may be a little too self-absorbed. "Fast talkers get so wrapped up in making a good impression that they don't pay attention to their audience," says DiResta. Slow talkers 55 typically play it safe. "The way they deliberate every word before it comes out of their mouth is indicative of how they approach life: They look before they leap." So although you shouldn't expect a lot of surprises, at least you'll know he means what he says.